Thursday, April 27, 2006

Chagrin & Tonic

Dating is like baseball: it takes balls. Unlike baseball, you can also strike out in one swing.

On Tuesday I looked too adorable for words, and, not wanting to waste that opportunity, I met my friend after work for happy hour at a friendly Chelsea bar.

I made eye contact with a very good looking guy, who smiled. I smiled back.

After that happened a couple of times, emboldened by a glass or two of liquid courage, I decided I would break out of the mould and actually go say hello. I left my friend under the pretext of getting another round; the guy was over by the bar with some friends. Once there I introduced myself and claimed my friend was talking to a cute guy (completely plausible!) and I wanted to give them a moment.

We chatted politely for a few minutes. After a moment, The Guy excused himself to use the restroom. I said to his friends, "He seems nice. Is he seeing anyone?"

"Yeah, me," said one, raising his hand.

"Oooooohhhh....kayyyy, errmmmm, uh...well, this isn't awkward or anything...I guess my friend's through talking to that guy now. Nice meeting you!"

12 comments:

Robert Bayn said...

Friends suck sometimes!

Mari said...

Ouch! Good job on getting out there and saying hi, though! :) At least you had the courage to take the first step!

Nathan said...

You fell for that!

Andy, is it possible he was making a move, too, and he just shucked you off by claiming to be his boyfriend? Cutie pie was gone, so would be none the wiser. Next time stick around, and when cutie pie returns say, "I was talking to your boyfriend...." and see what happens. Although, I agree with Mari, good job on the offense, now, let's see some follow through. Ooo wah!

Jade said...

Just remember, you may strike out now and again but you'll never hit a home run if you don't grab the bat once in a while!

jwc said...

so? did you get his number or what?

Quinn said...

Jade, that sounds dirty...

little-cicero said...

If it makes you feel any better, he might have been a Republican!

This story adds to my other cases against homosexuality...It's socially confusing. Upon a moments reflection, it would seem awkward trying to pick out friends from lovers when all are men. Is it as confusing as it appears?

Andy said...

LC, why would it be confusing? The same situation is completely probable among straight people. Let's say I got up to flirt with a girl. (ew, cooties!) We chatted for a bit, then she leaves to use the restroom, and I say, "She seems nice -- is she seeing anyone?" and a guy says, "Yeah, jerkwad, me, now scram." Isn't that EXACTLY the same?

Jade said...

Quinn... me sound dirty?

LC - Watch a little more Will and Grace for homework - you can tell Will and Jack are not lovers. I think Guys who are dating look like they are obviously into each other (no pun intended. Really!) Unless they are married and/or have been together a really long time, then they look like any other married couple... bickering over who left toast crumbs on the counter and the like.

Jeff said...

That happens to me all the time! Don't let it get you down. At least you're not as scandalous as I...I would have simply summed up my competition.

little-cicero said...

The difference is obvious. In the case of heterosexuals, you can take it as a pretty good warning sign when a guy is sitting with a girl that they are seeing each other. If I understand what happened correctly, there was no such warning sign available.

Jarred said...

You missed the part where this guy and his (presumed) boyfriend were with a group of other people. Maybe things in your social circles are different, but in my social circles, even heterosexual couples who are out in larger groups won't always be sitting together. I could easily see people coming up and talking to my friend Kathryn and not immediately realizing that she's married to my friend Tim, because it's not uncommon for him to be three seats away from Kathryn, chatting with myself and our friend Amanda. And even if he's sitting next to Kathryn, the fact that they're a couple is not always as obvious as you imply.